IT’S TIME TO HEAL FROM WHAT THEY PUT YOU THROUGH

To get cheated on and have your heart broken by someone you love and trust is one of the most painful experiences you could ever feel. It’s like you experience a death. You go through the stages of grief as you try to piece together whatever is left of your shattered heart.

So you decide to stay in the relationship. You may decide to forgive, but it is so difficult for you to forget. The pain from the memories linger like the smell of smoke after a fire destroys everything in its path. Time passes as you continue to struggle to heal.

Healing isn’t an overnight process. There are times where you will lash out because of the heartbreaking reminders of one of the worst times of your life – the day you received details of what your person has done behind your back. This is the person you never thought had the audacity or capacity to betray you.

I remember being cheated on in the past and trying to pick up the pieces and move forward, but I just couldn’t. It hurt too much. And my person, at that time, told me to let it go. They didn’t want to hear about it anymore.

So here I was crying my eyes out because of something you did to me. Issues you brought into my life. I am suffering from pain that you caused. Being attacked by a woman you engaged with. I would never be friends with this woman or cross paths with a woman like her.

I was surprised to see the type of women he entertained. This woman was jealous of me and hated me because in the end, he chose me. I didn’t let his choice boost my ego because he still entertained her at the end of the day. I still got played.

It showed me where he was mentally. It clearly wasn’t a good place because the other woman is almost always a downgrade. Her mind, spirit, and soul weren’t balanced. Her standards were low, and her lifestyle was poor.

Two broken people, without care, teaming up to break me. Misery truly does love company. My person welcomed this low vibrational energy into my life. He was an energy vampire. He sucked the life out of me and allowed multiple women to do the same to me.

With everything I’ve been through, I write this as a reminder for you:

1. They have already forgiven themselves for hurting you. In most instances, THEY DON’T CARE!!!
2. They caused you the pain, but it is your duty to heal your own heart.
3. The constant reminders of how they hurt you may trigger their feelings of shame and disgrace. It becomes your karma and baggage when you break the person down because of your pain. Now you become the abuser. You become the energy vampire.
4. You owe it to yourself to heal from this grief.
5. Sometimes part of the healing journey is walking away from the very person that broke your heart (depending on your specific situation).
6. Healing will open you up to newer blessings including love and a happier life.
7. God sees your tears. Call on him to help you on your healing journey. Your person may have left you alone, but God’s love is always with you.
8. God sees your tears and feels your pain. The people who hurt you will suffer for bringing disruption and sadness into your life.
9. Know that this is something you had to experience to mold you into the person you are becoming! A better, stronger, newer you.
10. You had to go through this to grow through it. This is your level up. New phases and new beginnings are now knocking at your door. Will you answer?