There came a moment in my journey when I had to pause and ask myself, “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of man?” Not just similar personalities, but eerily similar traumas, addictions, and emotional wounds. Different names, different faces—but the same energy. It wasn’t a coincidence. It was a karmic cycle. And the lesson kept repeating itself because I hadn’t learned what I was meant to see within myself.
I found myself at two completely different stages in life, confronting the same demon—just in two different men. And it finally hit me: the problem wasn’t just them. I had to turn inward and do the shadow work.
In the past, I unknowingly had an insatiable thirst for men who were sexually deviant, emotionally unavailable, or deeply wounded. Many of them had criminal backgrounds, uncontrollable sexual addictions, and alcohol or substance abuse. I didn’t recognize the trauma bonds forming beneath the surface. I was trauma bonding with men whose pain mirrored my own repressed pain from my childhood abuser —and that’s what made it feel so intense.
As a Scorpio, I’ve never been afraid to dive deep or face my darkness. So I did. I peeled back the layers of my own soul and uncovered memories and wounds from childhood that I had buried and forgotten. It was painful. But that pain was sacred. It was showing me what I needed to heal in order to break the pattern once and for all.
That’s the trap so many of us fall into—we try to outrun the internal work. But the karmic cycle doesn’t stop just because you leave a relationship. It only ends when you truly transform the part of you that allowed the cycle to begin.
I became intentional about my healing, not just for myself, but for my daughter. I knew I had to lead by example—showing her what self-worth, boundaries, and emotional clarity look like. I wanted to teach her what to look out for, so her journey could be easier to navigate than mine ever was. I was tired of finding comfort in dysfunction. I made a decision to break generational curses, even if it meant confronting the ugliest parts of myself.
The same energy will keep showing up in your life until you learn the lesson. It’s not about blame—it’s about awareness. Do the inner work. Face your shadows. Your healing is the key to breaking the cycle and stepping into the love and alignment you deserve.
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