Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared are based on my personal life, intuitive insights, and spiritual interpretations. While I believe in the truth of my experiences, all statements should be considered alleged. The content is intended for reflection, awareness, and discussion purposes only and should not be taken as verified fact.
My intuition had been showing me for years that he was on the DL. He had a gay best friend that he spent a lot of time with. It’s possible for a heterosexual man to be friends with gay men, but in my experience, it’s not very common. I didn’t see anything in his language or mannerisms that triggered my curiosity—it was really the amount of time he spent with this man that made me uncomfortable and sparked a lot of questions.
He always came back with stories about people from his hood secretly sleeping with his gay best friend. “You’d be surprised,” he would exclaim. He had a story for every negative thing happening in other people’s lives, but meanwhile, he held so many secrets of his own. Especially the truth about his “gay best friend” actually being his gay lover. He even went so far as to introduce me to him. Ironically, his gay lover and I formed a quick agreement where I ended up doing administrative work for his privately owned entertainment company.
I do not trust a man who spends a lot of time with the guys, and I especially don’t trust a straight man who spends most of his time with a homosexual man. Those are red flags in relationships for me. I don’t judge anyone for whatever lifestyle they choose, but lying to me—not only about being attracted to the same sex, but also about actively being involved with men—is not something I signed up for. He lied to me and put my health at risk with his wild escapades with both women and men. He is the type of opportunist who would sleep with anyone if there was something in it for him.
His gay lover even requested me as a friend on Facebook. At the time, I thought people had a genuine interest in me, but now I realize that so many of his secret lovers felt threatened by me. All of them—there were many—saw me as the obstacle between them and him. That led to years of stalking and secret attacks by women, men, and transsexuals I didn’t even know existed. Every time I say I walked away with my life, I mean it.
Even if I had financially benefited from his relationship with this man, I would never have knowingly allowed him to support me with money he received from his lovers outside of our relationship. I’ve learned so much in that relationship, and the biggest lesson was to never blindly trust anyone—but always trust my intuition.

