Love and Relationships Miss Metropolitan Junkie Miss MJ xoxo My Life After 30 Self Urban Aristocrats


By 30, you feel pressured and rushed to begin looking for a life partner. I’m so sick of people telling me that the older you get the harder it is to find a mate. It could be true, but I’m so annoyed with the pressure that comes with that saying. Do I grab the next available thing so that I’m not single by the time I hit 40? I honestly enjoy being single. A lot of men seem to know what a woman’s job is, but many of those men don’t seem to have a clue what their job is. See, if you want me to cook, clean, work, and take care of the children, you better love and support me both financially and physically through all of your demands. Don’t put a contract on a table and expect me to sign my life over for nothing. The beauty of the modern-day woman,   she’s educated and independent. Since I’m both, I’m smart enough to thoroughly read through the contract and act as Pro Se – adding my own stipulations to the deal.

I’m not saying that I don’t need or want a man. I’m saying that I don’t need or want just any man. I’m o.k. being alone until Mr. Right comes along. I’m willing to take care of home and my husband. I know how to take care of a man who knows how to care of me. But I don’t want the guy that’s taking care of every woman in New York City. I’m a Scorpio – jealous and possessive. What’s mine is mine and I don’t like to share.

Love can come at any time and at any age. I refuse to be forced into a lifetime of misery with someone because of a fear of loneliness. The lesson I learned is being single comes with perks that a lot of people in relationships wish they have. It’s important to enjoy being alone and learning how to grow as an individual. The single life is a life filled with great opportunities for advancement. When the right man comes along, I will be more than happy to treat him like a King because I am a Queen. Until then, I’ll embrace the single life because it isn’t such a bad life to live.

-Miss MJ xoxo

As I type, my phone rings and it’s the guy I’m desperately trying to avoid. When you meet enough losers, being single becomes so much easier.


  1. Great post. I get the double slap in the face. Are you married? Do you have children? And when I answer “no” proudly, they look at me like there’s something wrong with me. Maybe there is something wrong with them for marrying someone they can’t stand, or locking themselves down with kids just to please the rest of the world. Having a partner to share experiences with is nice; but I love having my own space, my own time, my own money, my own everything…when I want it. I don’t think I could ever depend on a man for any of those things, the ones that have crossed my path are too unreliable.

    1. I know how you feel. I’m married with a child and I always get asked “When are you having another child? or why don’t you give your husband a child?” It’s really annoying. You can’t let people dictate or question your life decisions. At the end of the day it’s your life and the decisions you make should be decisions you are able to live with.

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