Let’s keep it real! You can wait years for an apology and finally get it, but still not find the peace you’ve been seeking. Stop waiting for an apology because it isn’t always about forgiveness or letting go. Your spirit will let you know when you’re ready to move forward and there are times when we just can’t let go of something that hurt us in immeasurable ways. One apology isn’t going to somehow magically fix years of pain.
While I appreciate genuine apologies, what rests within me requires more than a word to fix. The damage developed into anger, sadness, pain, and resentment. It has gone unattended for so long, it’s become septic. It’s terminal and there is no cure for it. An apology won’t help. It’s no longer about repairing our past, but securing peace in my future. To truly have peace requires me to separate myself from people and things that do not bring good to me. We should avoid unhealthy foods, but there are people in our lives who are worse for our health than a bad diet. I repeat, THERE ARE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES WHO ARE WORSE FOR OUR HEALTH THAN A BAD DIET!!! You have to learn how to be okay with walking away from situations that no longer serve you in a positive way.
You are not obligated to forgive someone just because they said sorry. You are not obligated to find it in your heart to forgive. You are, however, obligated to find peace in your life. You must find ways to drive your hurt away. You are allowed to resent someone ’til the end of time. You are not allowed to resent yourself for not being able to forgive. You are not allowed to continuously put yourself in positions you know you are not comfortable in for the sake of someone else’s comfort. Life is so short, life is so short that there are times when you should stop making sacrifices, and stop allowing yourself to feel discomfort so that others can feel comfortable. F*ck “others”. Life is so short that you need to start thinking about what makes you happy and what will help you begin to heal.