Something I have learned in dating is how often family members will support toxic behavior. They will keep secret children hidden. They will welcome the mistress with open arms. They will call you controlling, not because you are, but because they feel like they are losing control of your partner.
For those dealing with blended families, the children may not respect your position in their parent’s life. Your partner’s ex feels entitled simply because they came first and share children with them, causing chaos and division in your home.
Their family enables addictions and other toxic behaviors because they all share them. It is a generational imprint, like the mark of the beast. These wounds get passed down through children born from affairs, incest, pedophilia, sex addictions, drug and alcohol abuse, and all the moral failings they refuse to confront and heal.
There are no boundaries with these people. Everyone in the family knows what is going on in your home, and they all have strong opinions about it. When you try to separate yourself, they claim it is because you think you are better than them, when in truth, your spirit just does not align with their lifestyle. Your peace is more valuable than their dysfunction. To add insult to injury, your partner lacks the backbone to stand up for you, remaining loyal to their blood family no matter how toxic they are.
Before choosing someone as a long term partner and before having children with them, take a hard look at their family. Learn their history. Because someone who comes from a toxic bloodline and has not done the work to break those cycles is not someone you should be building generational wealth or blood ties with. That connection could ultimately destroy your peace, your future, and your child’s livelihood.
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